Getting your realtionship on track

Where is your relationship going? Left? Right? In circles??? Get your relationship on track.
What do you say when someone asks you 'So how's it going with so-and-so?' If your reply is 'Fantastic! We are planning a lovely vacation and talking about moving in and getting a puppy!' or something of that nature, then I guess you are doing splendid! But for those of you who don't know what tomorrow or next week brings for you and your significant other, then you may be caught up in the 'Relationship Bermuda Triangle'

Let's talk about why you feel your relationship lacks direction and focus on how to create a more stable, reliable relationship with your partner. Grow and nurture a healthy relationship with help from an advisor from Heart 2 Heart Live.

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Mature Adult Dating: How our past relationships influence our current relationship or lack there of.

The saying is true, 'the older you get the harder it gets' This statement is the case for so many things as you 'grow up'. Lets take dating for example.

Typically as you start off your dating life, you get a boyfriend or girlfriend and are committed to each other and date exclusively. This is what is so special about young romance. Being a 'couple'.... ahhhhh! So sweet and innocent! It is almost part of your identity. You are known as 'Billy's girl' or 'Cindy's guy'. When exactly does the change take place where you go from committed and monogamous to dating and perhaps casual sex?

As you get older you may find yourself in this cycle. Maybe you are happy with this situation - variety is the spice of life! That is nice for the meantime but if you are in the boat sailing to the island of 'I better find someone and settle down or an important part of my life will soon pass me by' ... (don't ask me for exact coordinates of this island, it's sort of like the island in 'Lost', I don't know where it is) ... Then you are in this 'Mature Adult Dating Dilemma'. So many single late 20's and 30-somethings are finding it harder and harder to find happiness. At first it's fun to date and date but as you look around and all your friends are getting married and then having kids, you start to wonder ... 'Um.. why am I still single?' Perhaps you may have had relationships in the past that you compare all of the rest too. Perhaps you have crossed paths with someone who has really hurt you so you can't get serious with someone. Perhaps your ideas of what makes you happy and what you seek in a person are really non existent? Many influences from our past dictate or choices and actions in the present.

Do you want to be happy? Are you tired of being single? Lonely? Do you want to find someone you want to spend your life with? Are you tired of dating the wrong person? Are you searching for something that really isn't reality? Let's talk about why you are caught in the dating pattern you are in. Let's talk about ways to improve your choices and change your perspective so you can make the changes for a more positive dating experience.

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Relationship 101: Pick the time to talk to help avoid yelling and screaming

Arguing really sucks. But sometimes arguments are unavoidable. If you are in a relationship, you will argue plain and simple. But there is a time and place for everything. Get live advice on ideas to help at http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

Every discussion doesn’t have to end up in an argument. There will be issues and conflicts in your relationship but knowing when to address them and how, plays a major part in getting those problems resolved.

Some tips:

Don’t feed the fire. If you are aggravated over a situation, try to calm down and relax. This is your first step to finding a resolution to the problem. Remember cooler heads prevail.

Know when to discuss an issue. Picking a time and place that will control the situation for you, to some degree, helps. If you meet up at a diner for coffee or place to eat you know the two of you will have to control your tempers. If you are somewhere in public it usually helps to control the situation keeping the conversation rational and allowing the two of you to think things through and speak to each other in a calmer tone.

What you don’t want to do: Don’t plan to talk about an issue during a planned special evening out! If the issue waited as long as it has, it can wait until after your special time out. If you feel the situation is something that can’t wait, and happens to take place around the scheduled time of a major even, like a special evening out, try to hold back so the evening is not ruined with an argument, until you can find the time to discuss the matter. Patience never hurts and time may help reveal more information or a better way of addressing the issue.

Want to know more about how to get through an issue or how to get what you’re saying to be heard? Let’s talk about it. Heart2HeartLive.com

Let me know your tips and tricks how you manage to get through an sticky situation and meet a amicable resolution. Call me or any of the advisors on Heart 2 Heart Live we can help with your relationship question or help with some tips for your specific issue! http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

Is your relationship self destructing? Or are you sabotaging it?

Fighting all the time. Braking up and getting back together. Physical violence, verbal abuse, premeditated acts inducing negative situations in you relationship...Does this sound familiar? Are you sabotaging your relationship? An advisor is standing by ready to talk to you http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

Sometimes a little drama is good .. let's face it things can get a bit boring but there is a world of difference between some fun banter, verbal sparring and blatant, down right negative behavior. Are you getting into drop down drag out fights all the time? Do you precipitate them? Or perhaps you find yourself involved in one that your partner invokes.

When you argue, you can trace it back to the cause. Is is legitimate? Arguments sometimes are petty and go on because you want to be heard or get your point across or make sure what ever happened to provoke the argument doesn't happen again. But is it more than that? Are you involved in a relationship that you argue over and over again about the same issues or are arguments stemming from of specific behavior that is not condoned in your relationship? Cheating, drug addiction, alcohol addiction, porn addiction, distance, isolation, jealousy, inability to be open, infidelity, fetishes, irrational behaviors, disorders, depression and the list goes on.

Do you want the sabotage to stop? How do you get through to someone who is acting like this? How do you stop it, if it is you doing the sabotaging? Let's talk about it. Wether it is you who is the one doing the sabotaging through negative patterns and behaviors or you find yourself victim in a relationship with someone you love so much but need to stop the madness ... Call a counselor at www.Heart2HeartLive.com and discuss how to navigate the situation. Talking helps. You may realize the entire situation is happening because of something completely unrelated to the actual argument ... which is more often the case than not.

Call now and get some answers and suggestions on how to create a loving, caring relationship. Let's figure out what is destroying your relationship and help you to have a happy, healthy, relationship that works!

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Talk Therapy. Depressed over your relationship, work or another reason?

Do you feel like you are all alone sometimes? We all do. Are you depressed or down? Just a little ‘blue’ or is there a major thunderstorm of depression overhead? Is the situation you are going though something you can change? Is it your relationship or work that has you in such a rut? We are here to help you navigate your problems. A live person is here at Heart2HeartLive.com . Talk to one of our advisors right now.

Chances are you just need to talk or vent to release pressure. Usually this helps. Sometimes however, you may need more intensive measures like seeking a professional face to face counselor.

If you are feeling crummy, here are a few self help tips that may assist get you through a crummy time:

Are you getting enough sunlight? It may sound like something so simple, but just go grab some fresh air it will help. We, as living organisms, need sunlight to exist and to maintain a healthy life.

Is the issue that is causing you concern or getting you down something that will pass? Do you see an end to the problem? Try not to stress too much over a situation that you know will come to pass. If what is depressing you, you cannot see an end to, then you should talk to someone. Remember, this is not the end of the world, although it may really, really seem like it… ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ .. and today is the day to become Hercules! Tell yourself it ‘will pass’ … To know there is an end to the problem helps.

Occupy yourself. Get busy with a hobby or do something constructive. If you are lonely you may fall into the same pattern which is a cause of sinking deeper and deeper into depression. But if you do something to make yourself feel like you accomplished something, then you are more likely to fight off the depression.

Talk therapy helps pick up the phone and call an advisor from Heart2HeartLive.com We care and we are concerned. Great relationship, love and advice for life. Licensed counselors as well as ‘real people’ are there and you can speak to someone right now.

Don’t sit and sink into a deeper depression. You deserve to be happy. Speak to someone now who can help! http://www.heart2heartlive.com/


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Happiness, Your Relationship & Perspective

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What is perspective? According to the online Cambridge Dictionary: Perspective is
a particular way of viewing things that depends on one's experience and personality
Perspective also means the ability to consider things in relation to one another accurately and fairly: With more maturity and experience, you will gradually acquire perspective.If something is in perspective, it is considered as part of a complete situation so that you have an accurate and fair understanding of it: Putting the past in perspective is an enormous task.

When we sometimes seek happiness we sometimes have a skewed version of reality. As you may know by now, I like quoting old adages … Well, they say ‘the grass is not always greener on the other side’ right? Right.

From the outside looking in, it’s your perspective that forms a ‘reality’ around a situation. For example, you are having problems in your relationship. Why? Are you creating issues to cause chaos for yourself? Are you sabotaging your relationship on purpose? Maybe in fact your relationship should be over. Relationships sometimes do end. But is this YOUR case? Or are you secretly wishing things could be better and you are getting into arguments to cause some sort of reaction by ‘stirring up the pot.’ But why?

Do you look at other couples and think others may have the perfect life? Do you think that everyone else who is in a committed relationship is happy all the time? Does this make you angry or make you seek ways to sabotage what you have? This is where perspective comes in.

Step back and ask yourself why did you fall in love with this person in the first place? Have you arrived at a time in your relationship that outside stresses influence the relationship? Is it breaking your relationship down? Did you once feel like you could spend the rest of your life with this person and now you are not sure? Lots of questions … and you need to ask these things to yourself one by one. Only you know. Getting advice helps: Betterworld

But it is up to you if you want to fix what’s broken and move forward or figure out if it’s just not worth it. The key is putting the REAL situation in perspective. Don’t let anyone influence you. It’s up to you once you stand back and take a good hard look at the facts and what you feel is best for your happiness. Visit me at http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

Your Relationship To The World Around You: Spirituality

There is something to be said for ‘Spirituality’. Just the word ‘Spiritual’ has a unique meaning to each person. I like to believe that being a ‘Spiritual’ person means to be aware of you and your relationship to the Universe. What does that mean … ? Well I guess it’s sort of like the ‘Golden Rule’ Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If subscribe to this rule you will consider your actions and the role you play in relation to the rest of the world around you.

We all can’t be good all of the time, but to have some sort of belief in something or someone, helps to give us strength to stick to a life order of sorts. If you believe in yourself, you are halfway there. Spirituality comes from within. It’s not a religion. It’s a strength you draw from your core. You may not be a member of any particular religion, but you know what you do, has specific impacts on the people around you.

You still find yourself to be considerate of others and aware of your actions. This is what I call Spiritual. As well, you may identify yourself to be Christian, Catholic, Jewish, or another religion and still consider yourself Spiritual. It is both.

Spirituality comes from you. You radiate it and can be a ‘beautiful spirit’ just by being the best you can be.

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Many suggestions for your problem. What is the best solution?

SEEKING ADVICE PART I

Hi. Betterworld here! When you have a problem, concern or situation and need advice, you can go to a friend, family member, co-worker, bartender or even your beautician! Most likely you will get six different answers to your issue. Which one is right? If you have a personal, knowledgeable, trustworthy source to go to for advice, go to them for help. If you need an outsider’s unbiased opinion as to what you should do, I have a personal site Heart2HeartLive.com where you can contact me through or contact me on Keen. I can offer live advice. I also feature other advisors from Keen on my site.

Consider these key elements when you seek some answers for your problem or concern:

First: Do you trust the source you are asking? Are you asking someone for help and guidance who really understands your situation or problem? I mean, are they knowledgeable in the area of expertise that you need good, sound advice for? Be sure you are talking to someone who really can help you.

Second: Do they understand your relationship to the problem? In other words, do they see where you are ‘coming from’ with regard to the dynamics of the problem? Make sure they are clear on what you are telling them and your ‘place’ in the problem. For instance if you were complaining about your boyfriend who won’t commit to you, but what you haven’t told them is your ‘boyfriend’ is a married man … well … that ‘little’ piece of information changes the entire direction of where the conversation and advice goes!

Third: Are you considering who you are consulting for advisement? Have you considered what role this conversation plays in the here and now or future with whom you are telling? Remember, information is a powerful thing. Can you trust the person you are talking to, to keep the information confidential? Can you trust the person you are talking to, not to judge you? It gets really complicated when you talk to someone close to you about an issue or problem that may be information that they can use to ‘come back and bite you with’.

Fouth: Do they have your best interest at heart? This point needs no explaining. Go with your gut. For example, I wouldn’t suggest going to your girlfriend’s friend for advice if you just met her two weeks ago. Her advice would most likely come from a place where she is looking out for her friends (and possible her own) best interest NOT your OR she may even try to break you two up!

When you have considered these key dynamics, in the end, you need to ask yourself: Am I comfortable with the options the ‘advisor’ or ‘consultant’ posed to me as sound, reasonable advice that I am willing to use to my advantage?

Make sure when seeking advice you are clear; focus on the facts and what you want to accomplish. A resolution can be found! However, it is up to you to get your point across and the true facts of the matter play a big part in what advice you get and how you can use it to your benefit. Be open. Be honest and DO NOT be embarrassed to address the REAL facts and elements that surround the situation.

When you talk to someone you know, if you think you may not be able to reveal key facts to help you get good, accurate advise, but have now just told someone about your personal thoughts, problems and information … you will end up feeling like you have made a mistake. Don’t speak now and feel insecure later about what you may or may not have told someone about your personal situation.

You can get advice from sources who won’t judge you at www.Heart2HeartLive.com who can be contacted through Keen.
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