Is it time to walk away?

Relationships can be really, really tough sometimes. Your relationship should be a healthy source of happiness and your partner should be one that you draw strength from...not one that breaks you down.

Ok … we don’t live in a perfect world, but shouldn’t you be happy in your relationship? Are you in a loving relationship or is there jealously and betrayal? What makes your relationship tick? Is it that you and your partner both have the same visions and they bring you closer together? Is it that the two of you see things differently, but that brings you together because with different perspectives and open minds you can create something new all together?

Or do you constantly fight and disagree? Do you not see eye to eye on major issues? When do you say: ‘I think it’s time to walk away.’

Abusive relationships don’t always mean physical. We can be wrapped up in a mentally abusive relationship too. Or emotionally abusive … At what point do you say this is worth working on or this is too much to bear? Every relationship regardless if one person loves the other may or may not work because of the mechanics of the relationship.

Let’s talk about why you may be considering calling it quits. Let’s break down key issues and talk about them, you may not have to break up. Call an advisor for live advice any time of the day or night http://www.heart2heartlive.com/ Live advice from the heart. Ask one of our psychics too! Hand selected psychics with proven real psychic ability are available at Heart2HeartLive.com too.

What is True Love? Let's have a Heart 2 Heart Live Talk About It

What is love exactly? Talk about it with someone at http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

I mean, what is true love? Some may say it is supposed to be unconditional. But we are humans and no matter what, certain situations change that. Like if we were cheated on … Can you still love that person? Did they really love you if they cheated on you to begin with? Are you a better person for standing by them or a fool?

True love is not that complicated. What we ‘think’ is love, is very complicated. Because it is very simple, no matter what you do, you should consider your actions and how it will impact your relationship and the one you love before you do it. That sounds simple right? Wrong. It’s more complicated than that. Like do you really love that person or not? Are you willing to act in your own best interest or for the one you love? If you don’t really truly love someone … sometimes you will hurt them… and may not care.

Now if you truly love someone, unfortunately for us, the evolved human being, it gets complicated. We have desires, compulsions, and issues that get in the way…and that’s the watered down version of reasons why we may do things to hurt the ones we love. Accidental or intentional, sometimes the pain that is caused to the ones we love hurts them bad enough to make them think you don’t love them. This may or may not be true.

So many dynamics as to why someone did something to hurt someone. This doesn’t mean we don’t love them. Are they being loved the way they should? Another good question…

Love is complicated. Relationships are complicated. Pain and suffering should not be incorporated in a relationship but sometimes is for many reasons. I can go on and on but I started this with one purpose and that was to make you think.

In the end, if you can, think about what you do and how it affects the person (people) you love. Anyone you love; your spouse, friend, family, whatever. Ask yourself ‘How would I feel if it were them doing what I am doing?’ If you would be hurt, angry or be affected in a negative way, maybe you should rethink what you were about to do. Is it worth ruining a relationship over doing something foolish? And by the same, think about how you could make someone feel by doing something wonderful.

Make love happen. Make your relationship strong. Live with happiness and joy. Love is a blessing. If you need to talk call someone at http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

So now that you have decided to get advice ... What do you do?

PART II

Congratulations! You have made a wise decision to get advice and from whom you will consult. So now what do you do? Get live advice.

Some things to remember:

First: You must be open and honest. The only way you are going to get advice you can use, is to address the real issues. Put everything aside. Peel back the layers. Do not be embarrassed. Talk about the details and include how you feel in relation to the issue and what the situation is causing for you in your life. How does your issue really affect your life? Be clear and honest. This is the only way someone who is willing to help give you a clear path as to what you need to do to get through your problem.

Second: Do not be defensive. If you are getting advice for anything, don’t be defensive. The key to getting great advice is that the advisor understands the details. He or she may ask a lot of questions so they can draw sound conclusions for you and really help you. State the facts and get into your emotions. When getting advice, it is sometimes a ‘knee jerk’ reaction to defend ourselves. You can state why you did what you did that put you in a situation and ‘defend’ your actions, but don’t be ‘defensive’. If someone is trying to give you advice and you make it hard for them, you may likely push them away where they don’t want to work with you and help you because you will come across as ‘complaining’ instead of seeking their advice to be proactive and to really help yourself. Remember, they want to HELP you.

Third: When getting advice, make sure you have an open mind. Be willing to consider options and suggestions. Remember, you may be in the situation you are in because of your typical patterns and behaviors. Only you can change them. If you are going to let some skeletons out of your closet, you might as well put the advice you receive into motion.

Fourth: When getting advice, sometimes we feel worse before we feel better. Just like the old saying goes ‘the truth hurts’. Well this is it! You have now laid your cards on the table. If you have consulted a person who genuinely cares for your well being and wants to see you recover from a situation, they may give you advice you don’t want to hear. But, again, this is because it is something you may not want to face, but it may be in your best interest to follow.

Fifth: Digest and give advice time. You don’t need to act right away in most cases. Have patience and let the advice settle in. See how you can work it into your situation where it can benefit you.

In the end, you needed help with something. You were brave enough to talk to someone who you can trust and is knowledgeable. Use that information for your benefit. Make sure you are comfortable with what they have told you and you feel you can put the advice into play.

If it doesn’t feel right, don’t act on it. Trust your gut and use your head. After all, you know what’s best for you and what you need to do for yourself to be happy.

TALK NOW to someone who cares.

Good advice isn't hard to find ...If you look in the right place!

For a long time I have been giving advice to my friends, family and co-workers. The problem with that is you never really know what the whole story is and if what you are telling them is in their best interest since they may have left out a 'few minor details.'

I am new to Keen.com and wanted to say that my experience there helping people to get through an issue they may find 'embarassing' to speak about face to face with someone or being called by someone who seeks an unbiased opinion has been so fulfilling. In fact it has inspired my to create a new site Heart2HeartLive.com which will hopefully get more people to utilize the great avice service here on Keen!

I enjoy helping people who are going through a situation that they may otherwise find very hard to talk about. Either to someone who is close to them because they may not get a true answer or they may not have anyone around they trust to give them 'Good Advice'.

In fact, good advice is hard to find. Especially when it comes to love, dating, relationships, sex and family matters. Sometimes you don't have anyone to talk to, and plain and simple, don't want anyone you know to know your business! This is such a great way to have an adult conversation with a caring person who has your best interest at heart.

So, in closing to wrap up my first entry on my new blog, here on Keen ... It's nice to have a place to go where there are people who you can talk to: expert, advisor or psychic that can help you through a one time situation or be there for you if you just need to talk, vent or get your spirits lifted a little.

I'm here and my advice comes from my heart. My mission and purpose is to help people find happiness. Through this, one by one, the world becomes a better place. Spread love and joy.
Blessings!