Is it time to walk away?

Relationships can be really, really tough sometimes. Your relationship should be a healthy source of happiness and your partner should be one that you draw strength from...not one that breaks you down.

Ok … we don’t live in a perfect world, but shouldn’t you be happy in your relationship? Are you in a loving relationship or is there jealously and betrayal? What makes your relationship tick? Is it that you and your partner both have the same visions and they bring you closer together? Is it that the two of you see things differently, but that brings you together because with different perspectives and open minds you can create something new all together?

Or do you constantly fight and disagree? Do you not see eye to eye on major issues? When do you say: ‘I think it’s time to walk away.’

Abusive relationships don’t always mean physical. We can be wrapped up in a mentally abusive relationship too. Or emotionally abusive … At what point do you say this is worth working on or this is too much to bear? Every relationship regardless if one person loves the other may or may not work because of the mechanics of the relationship.

Let’s talk about why you may be considering calling it quits. Let’s break down key issues and talk about them, you may not have to break up. Call an advisor for live advice any time of the day or night http://www.heart2heartlive.com/ Live advice from the heart. Ask one of our psychics too! Hand selected psychics with proven real psychic ability are available at Heart2HeartLive.com too.

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SEEKING ADVICE PART I

Hi. Betterworld here! When you have a problem, concern or situation and need advice, you can go to a friend, family member, co-worker, bartender or even your beautician! Most likely you will get six different answers to your issue. Which one is right? If you have a personal, knowledgeable, trustworthy source to go to for advice, go to them for help. If you need an outsider’s unbiased opinion as to what you should do, I have a personal site Heart2HeartLive.com where you can contact me through or contact me on Keen. I can offer live advice. I also feature other advisors from Keen on my site.

Consider these key elements when you seek some answers for your problem or concern:

First: Do you trust the source you are asking? Are you asking someone for help and guidance who really understands your situation or problem? I mean, are they knowledgeable in the area of expertise that you need good, sound advice for? Be sure you are talking to someone who really can help you.

Second: Do they understand your relationship to the problem? In other words, do they see where you are ‘coming from’ with regard to the dynamics of the problem? Make sure they are clear on what you are telling them and your ‘place’ in the problem. For instance if you were complaining about your boyfriend who won’t commit to you, but what you haven’t told them is your ‘boyfriend’ is a married man … well … that ‘little’ piece of information changes the entire direction of where the conversation and advice goes!

Third: Are you considering who you are consulting for advisement? Have you considered what role this conversation plays in the here and now or future with whom you are telling? Remember, information is a powerful thing. Can you trust the person you are talking to, to keep the information confidential? Can you trust the person you are talking to, not to judge you? It gets really complicated when you talk to someone close to you about an issue or problem that may be information that they can use to ‘come back and bite you with’.

Fouth: Do they have your best interest at heart? This point needs no explaining. Go with your gut. For example, I wouldn’t suggest going to your girlfriend’s friend for advice if you just met her two weeks ago. Her advice would most likely come from a place where she is looking out for her friends (and possible her own) best interest NOT your OR she may even try to break you two up!

When you have considered these key dynamics, in the end, you need to ask yourself: Am I comfortable with the options the ‘advisor’ or ‘consultant’ posed to me as sound, reasonable advice that I am willing to use to my advantage?

Make sure when seeking advice you are clear; focus on the facts and what you want to accomplish. A resolution can be found! However, it is up to you to get your point across and the true facts of the matter play a big part in what advice you get and how you can use it to your benefit. Be open. Be honest and DO NOT be embarrassed to address the REAL facts and elements that surround the situation.

When you talk to someone you know, if you think you may not be able to reveal key facts to help you get good, accurate advise, but have now just told someone about your personal thoughts, problems and information … you will end up feeling like you have made a mistake. Don’t speak now and feel insecure later about what you may or may not have told someone about your personal situation.

You can get advice from sources who won’t judge you at www.Heart2HeartLive.com who can be contacted through Keen.
Advisors, Psychics and Therapists on call to help you any time of day. I myself am an advisor. I can help you. Just call me or any of the advisors on Heart2HeartLive

Smile now. You will feel better. Later, talk about it and try to start resolving the issue.

I really get upset when I see people sad. It bothers me. If I could make people feel better and smile, my work would be done! I give advice on Heart2HeartLive.com through the Keen Ingenio network. I feel good when people feel better at the end of a conversation because when they called they were not in a good place. These people who contact me are taking responsibility for their happiness. Something is bothering them and they know they need to speak to someone about it. I commend these people who seek help and utilize the services of the advisors on Keen.
Everyday we go through our lives with our own issues and problems. We wish for things to get better but sometimes never really hold ourselves accountable for our own unhappiness. We are always complaining about the same issues over and over to the same people. 'My relationship sucks' 'My job sucks' 'I can't get a date' etc.
Each time we mention how unhappy we are it's like you are giving power to that negativity. When you command attention to something it takes the energy - good or bad - for what you have just given it away for and becomes stronger. So if you are giving energy to a negative feeling you will continue to be unhappy. Just like you are 'feeding' the negative energy...
Remember the old saying 'If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all'? This comment is usually made when we comment negatively about or to someone else. Have you stopped to say to yourself, 'if you have nothing to say don't say anything?' Probably not. You should.
When we have a problem or issue try to resolve it. Don't give all your attention to a negative emotion or toxic situation. Take time out and deal with it. Talk to someone. But throughout your day...stop...smile...and concentrate on positive things.
How do you envision your life? Do you want to be happy? Do you want to feel bliss and joy? How will this be achieved if you carry your burden of problems with you all around and give them attention all the time?
Remember the other old saying... 'Misery loves company?' This is true when someone is miserable and wants to make you equally as unhappy as they are. Do you want to make others miserable or do you want to be happy? You make a choice every time you smile.
Just smile and hold your head high. Work on where you want to be ... what path or course you want your life to take. You have the power... you give attention to the positive or negative issues in your life. It's your choice. But there is a time and place for everything.
Like an actor; we see what act they put on. Well, if you have a situation you are going through, and you call attention to it all the time and that's all that will ever be seen.
Pick and choose when you want to give attention to a problem. When you decide you need to talk to someone, get into it. Address it and get to the root of the problem. Open up be honest so you can plan your course to resolve it. Otherwise, if you are not truly going to change or fix the actions you take, you will keep repeating your current situation over and over.
So, stop and smile. When you want to complain about your problems, stop and ask yourself 'will this fix my problem?' If it won't, then it is not the time to give that negative energy any attention until you are ready to tackle it head on and do something about it.
And in case you didn't know, when you smile and someone smiles back, you WILL start to feel better. It is like medicine. Smiles do help to cure you. So if you were about to feel 'blue' smile and the person who smiles back at you has just started to help you by giving attention to positive energy! This will help you to cope and get through your problem until you are able to address it and take steps to fix it, cope or heal.
You can call me or someone else on Heart2HeartLive.com We are here to help.

Good advice isn't hard to find ...If you look in the right place!

For a long time I have been giving advice to my friends, family and co-workers. The problem with that is you never really know what the whole story is and if what you are telling them is in their best interest since they may have left out a 'few minor details.'

I am new to Keen.com and wanted to say that my experience there helping people to get through an issue they may find 'embarassing' to speak about face to face with someone or being called by someone who seeks an unbiased opinion has been so fulfilling. In fact it has inspired my to create a new site Heart2HeartLive.com which will hopefully get more people to utilize the great avice service here on Keen!

I enjoy helping people who are going through a situation that they may otherwise find very hard to talk about. Either to someone who is close to them because they may not get a true answer or they may not have anyone around they trust to give them 'Good Advice'.

In fact, good advice is hard to find. Especially when it comes to love, dating, relationships, sex and family matters. Sometimes you don't have anyone to talk to, and plain and simple, don't want anyone you know to know your business! This is such a great way to have an adult conversation with a caring person who has your best interest at heart.

So, in closing to wrap up my first entry on my new blog, here on Keen ... It's nice to have a place to go where there are people who you can talk to: expert, advisor or psychic that can help you through a one time situation or be there for you if you just need to talk, vent or get your spirits lifted a little.

I'm here and my advice comes from my heart. My mission and purpose is to help people find happiness. Through this, one by one, the world becomes a better place. Spread love and joy.
Blessings!