Relationship 101: Pick the time to talk to help avoid yelling and screaming

Arguing really sucks. But sometimes arguments are unavoidable. If you are in a relationship, you will argue plain and simple. But there is a time and place for everything. Get live advice on ideas to help at http://www.heart2heartlive.com/

Every discussion doesn’t have to end up in an argument. There will be issues and conflicts in your relationship but knowing when to address them and how, plays a major part in getting those problems resolved.

Some tips:

Don’t feed the fire. If you are aggravated over a situation, try to calm down and relax. This is your first step to finding a resolution to the problem. Remember cooler heads prevail.

Know when to discuss an issue. Picking a time and place that will control the situation for you, to some degree, helps. If you meet up at a diner for coffee or place to eat you know the two of you will have to control your tempers. If you are somewhere in public it usually helps to control the situation keeping the conversation rational and allowing the two of you to think things through and speak to each other in a calmer tone.

What you don’t want to do: Don’t plan to talk about an issue during a planned special evening out! If the issue waited as long as it has, it can wait until after your special time out. If you feel the situation is something that can’t wait, and happens to take place around the scheduled time of a major even, like a special evening out, try to hold back so the evening is not ruined with an argument, until you can find the time to discuss the matter. Patience never hurts and time may help reveal more information or a better way of addressing the issue.

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