Monday, March 16, 2009

Happiness, Your Relationship & Perspective

Let talk about Perspective.

What is perspective? According to the online Cambridge Dictionary: Perspective is
a particular way of viewing things that depends on one's experience and personality
Perspective also means the ability to consider things in relation to one another accurately and fairly: With more maturity and experience, you will gradually acquire perspective.If something is in perspective, it is considered as part of a complete situation so that you have an accurate and fair understanding of it: Putting the past in perspective is an enormous task.

When we sometimes seek happiness we sometimes have a skewed version of reality. As you may know by now, I like quoting old adages … Well, they say ‘the grass is not always greener on the other side’ right? Right.

From the outside looking in, it’s your perspective that forms a ‘reality’ around a situation. For example, you are having problems in your relationship. Why? Are you creating issues to cause chaos for yourself? Are you sabotaging your relationship on purpose? Maybe in fact your relationship should be over. Relationships sometimes do end. But is this YOUR case? Or are you secretly wishing things could be better and you are getting into arguments to cause some sort of reaction by ‘stirring up the pot.’ But why?

Do you look at other couples and think others may have the perfect life? Do you think that everyone else who is in a committed relationship is happy all the time? Does this make you angry or make you seek ways to sabotage what you have? This is where perspective comes in.

Step back and ask yourself why did you fall in love with this person in the first place? Have you arrived at a time in your relationship that outside stresses influence the relationship? Is it breaking your relationship down? Did you once feel like you could spend the rest of your life with this person and now you are not sure? Lots of questions … and you need to ask these things to yourself one by one. Only you know. Getting advice helps: Betterworld

But it is up to you if you want to fix what’s broken and move forward or figure out if it’s just not worth it. The key is putting the REAL situation in perspective. Don’t let anyone influence you. It’s up to you once you stand back and take a good hard look at the facts and what you feel is best for your happiness. Visit me at