Thursday, March 12, 2009

Many suggestions for your problem. What is the best solution?


Hi. Betterworld here! When you have a problem, concern or situation and need advice, you can go to a friend, family member, co-worker, bartender or even your beautician! Most likely you will get six different answers to your issue. Which one is right? If you have a personal, knowledgeable, trustworthy source to go to for advice, go to them for help. If you need an outsider’s unbiased opinion as to what you should do, I have a personal site where you can contact me through or contact me on Keen. I can offer live advice. I also feature other advisors from Keen on my site.

Consider these key elements when you seek some answers for your problem or concern:

First: Do you trust the source you are asking? Are you asking someone for help and guidance who really understands your situation or problem? I mean, are they knowledgeable in the area of expertise that you need good, sound advice for? Be sure you are talking to someone who really can help you.

Second: Do they understand your relationship to the problem? In other words, do they see where you are ‘coming from’ with regard to the dynamics of the problem? Make sure they are clear on what you are telling them and your ‘place’ in the problem. For instance if you were complaining about your boyfriend who won’t commit to you, but what you haven’t told them is your ‘boyfriend’ is a married man … well … that ‘little’ piece of information changes the entire direction of where the conversation and advice goes!

Third: Are you considering who you are consulting for advisement? Have you considered what role this conversation plays in the here and now or future with whom you are telling? Remember, information is a powerful thing. Can you trust the person you are talking to, to keep the information confidential? Can you trust the person you are talking to, not to judge you? It gets really complicated when you talk to someone close to you about an issue or problem that may be information that they can use to ‘come back and bite you with’.

Fouth: Do they have your best interest at heart? This point needs no explaining. Go with your gut. For example, I wouldn’t suggest going to your girlfriend’s friend for advice if you just met her two weeks ago. Her advice would most likely come from a place where she is looking out for her friends (and possible her own) best interest NOT your OR she may even try to break you two up!

When you have considered these key dynamics, in the end, you need to ask yourself: Am I comfortable with the options the ‘advisor’ or ‘consultant’ posed to me as sound, reasonable advice that I am willing to use to my advantage?

Make sure when seeking advice you are clear; focus on the facts and what you want to accomplish. A resolution can be found! However, it is up to you to get your point across and the true facts of the matter play a big part in what advice you get and how you can use it to your benefit. Be open. Be honest and DO NOT be embarrassed to address the REAL facts and elements that surround the situation.

When you talk to someone you know, if you think you may not be able to reveal key facts to help you get good, accurate advise, but have now just told someone about your personal thoughts, problems and information … you will end up feeling like you have made a mistake. Don’t speak now and feel insecure later about what you may or may not have told someone about your personal situation.

You can get advice from sources who won’t judge you at who can be contacted through Keen.
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