Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Smile now. You will feel better. Later, talk about it and try to start resolving the issue.

I really get upset when I see people sad. It bothers me. If I could make people feel better and smile, my work would be done! I give advice on through the Keen Ingenio network. I feel good when people feel better at the end of a conversation because when they called they were not in a good place. These people who contact me are taking responsibility for their happiness. Something is bothering them and they know they need to speak to someone about it. I commend these people who seek help and utilize the services of the advisors on Keen.
Everyday we go through our lives with our own issues and problems. We wish for things to get better but sometimes never really hold ourselves accountable for our own unhappiness. We are always complaining about the same issues over and over to the same people. 'My relationship sucks' 'My job sucks' 'I can't get a date' etc.
Each time we mention how unhappy we are it's like you are giving power to that negativity. When you command attention to something it takes the energy - good or bad - for what you have just given it away for and becomes stronger. So if you are giving energy to a negative feeling you will continue to be unhappy. Just like you are 'feeding' the negative energy...
Remember the old saying 'If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all'? This comment is usually made when we comment negatively about or to someone else. Have you stopped to say to yourself, 'if you have nothing to say don't say anything?' Probably not. You should.
When we have a problem or issue try to resolve it. Don't give all your attention to a negative emotion or toxic situation. Take time out and deal with it. Talk to someone. But throughout your concentrate on positive things.
How do you envision your life? Do you want to be happy? Do you want to feel bliss and joy? How will this be achieved if you carry your burden of problems with you all around and give them attention all the time?
Remember the other old saying... 'Misery loves company?' This is true when someone is miserable and wants to make you equally as unhappy as they are. Do you want to make others miserable or do you want to be happy? You make a choice every time you smile.
Just smile and hold your head high. Work on where you want to be ... what path or course you want your life to take. You have the power... you give attention to the positive or negative issues in your life. It's your choice. But there is a time and place for everything.
Like an actor; we see what act they put on. Well, if you have a situation you are going through, and you call attention to it all the time and that's all that will ever be seen.
Pick and choose when you want to give attention to a problem. When you decide you need to talk to someone, get into it. Address it and get to the root of the problem. Open up be honest so you can plan your course to resolve it. Otherwise, if you are not truly going to change or fix the actions you take, you will keep repeating your current situation over and over.
So, stop and smile. When you want to complain about your problems, stop and ask yourself 'will this fix my problem?' If it won't, then it is not the time to give that negative energy any attention until you are ready to tackle it head on and do something about it.
And in case you didn't know, when you smile and someone smiles back, you WILL start to feel better. It is like medicine. Smiles do help to cure you. So if you were about to feel 'blue' smile and the person who smiles back at you has just started to help you by giving attention to positive energy! This will help you to cope and get through your problem until you are able to address it and take steps to fix it, cope or heal.
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